Wednesday, May 27, 2009
I talked to my brain
Tonight I had a terrible stomachache and left the dining table to lay down little bit while Olivia has been still working on her plate.I asked Reha to stay with her but as soon as I laid down Olivia took her bib out and went down too. She ran to Reha started telling something.Reha asked her if she finished her dinner or not .Here is her answer"
"Daddy,when Mommy laid down on the sofa,I talked to myself, talked to my brain and realized that that I am full.":-))))
"Daddy,when Mommy laid down on the sofa,I talked to myself, talked to my brain and realized that that I am full.":-))))
Weaning out Olivia-3
7th night-
Oli:I want to have meme ( smiling but about to cry)
Me: Tomorrow morning sweety
Oli: Is it morning now?
Me:No honey
Oli:But I want it
Oli: Daddy ,I am like that ( she ran to Reha not crying but anxious) because I am worried about meme.I am really worried.
She ran back to her bed .
"Mommy I like salad and chocolate ,but I like meme most"(she is referring to our play "I love you most")
She wanted me sleep in her bed.I laid down ,she couldn't know how to cuddle me( She doesn't like to cuddle though:-). I cuddled her kissed ,pet ,signed.
Then she said "go now,go" :-((((
Get up once "my foot was sticking out of the comforter ,that's why I came"
I tucked her again. She talked with her imaginary friends some time and went to sleep.
Hope she will stop asking for it soon.
Oli:I want to have meme ( smiling but about to cry)
Me: Tomorrow morning sweety
Oli: Is it morning now?
Me:No honey
Oli:But I want it
Oli: Daddy ,I am like that ( she ran to Reha not crying but anxious) because I am worried about meme.I am really worried.
She ran back to her bed .
"Mommy I like salad and chocolate ,but I like meme most"(she is referring to our play "I love you most")
She wanted me sleep in her bed.I laid down ,she couldn't know how to cuddle me( She doesn't like to cuddle though:-). I cuddled her kissed ,pet ,signed.
Then she said "go now,go" :-((((
Get up once "my foot was sticking out of the comforter ,that's why I came"
I tucked her again. She talked with her imaginary friends some time and went to sleep.
Hope she will stop asking for it soon.
Tuesday, May 26, 2009
etc-etc-etc
Olivia learned to say ETC :-))
Piglet-Kanga-Roo etc...(LOL . she laughs by covering her mouth with her hands)
Sofa-chair-table-etc ( laugh :-))she is wondering in the living room)
Daddy-Mommy-Oli etc LOL
Piglet-Kanga-Roo etc...(LOL . she laughs by covering her mouth with her hands)
Sofa-chair-table-etc ( laugh :-))she is wondering in the living room)
Daddy-Mommy-Oli etc LOL
Weaning out Olivia-3
5th night--- I am playing with her her "going to swimming pool"play and doing really what she wants to make her feel good .I have been reading that keeping them satisfied is important during these weaning period.After we are done with playing she went to bed and I sat on the carpet and started singing "you are my sunshine" .Then she said:Mommy can I have meme while you are singing"I said "you'll have it tomorrow morning Olivia,when sun comes" .She said " No morning no,now.Look sun is rising ,it is rising now":-)) by crying.Then she made a point " I DON"T want to skip nursing,I like MEME.I like it a lot":-((((
She was so real and convincing that I was about to except her proposal.If she likes it why she should stop.And She said "I want it ,now not tomorrow.I don't like tomorrow".
I took a deep breath and said "you'll have it tomorrow Olivia Okay?"
She said" Sincee ,I don't have meme can I have cow's milk "
She had it in a cup and rinssed her teeth.
And "Can we sleep together here in my bed" she asked,
I tucked myself in her bed( did I mentioned earlier how hard to fit in??),she roled her armed aroud my neck,I stick my face into her chick and started singing "you are my sunshine again"
She felt asleep in 5 min.
I sneaked out slowly
6th night-tonight---
We played swimming pool .In the bed she said"since I am a pretend baby,can I have meme here now?:-)))( sometimes she is pretending baby Olivia,crowling etc.She was about to cry while asking but didn't.I think she has been thinking for a while how to ask it)
I said"You'll have it tomorrow morning honey"
She wanted me sleep with her.I laid down again ,pet her hais ,sing her.Kissed her(she was responding my kisses by turning her chicks :-))
Then she said "since I am a baby ,I want to sleep with dady"
I said Okay and she took her bay and doggy and went to sleep with Reha.
Hopefully they slept by now:-))
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She was so real and convincing that I was about to except her proposal.If she likes it why she should stop.And She said "I want it ,now not tomorrow.I don't like tomorrow".
I took a deep breath and said "you'll have it tomorrow Olivia Okay?"
She said" Sincee ,I don't have meme can I have cow's milk "
She had it in a cup and rinssed her teeth.
And "Can we sleep together here in my bed" she asked,
I tucked myself in her bed( did I mentioned earlier how hard to fit in??),she roled her armed aroud my neck,I stick my face into her chick and started singing "you are my sunshine again"
She felt asleep in 5 min.
I sneaked out slowly
6th night-tonight---
We played swimming pool .In the bed she said"since I am a pretend baby,can I have meme here now?:-)))( sometimes she is pretending baby Olivia,crowling etc.She was about to cry while asking but didn't.I think she has been thinking for a while how to ask it)
I said"You'll have it tomorrow morning honey"
She wanted me sleep with her.I laid down again ,pet her hais ,sing her.Kissed her(she was responding my kisses by turning her chicks :-))
Then she said "since I am a baby ,I want to sleep with dady"
I said Okay and she took her bay and doggy and went to sleep with Reha.
Hopefully they slept by now:-))
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Sunday, May 24, 2009
I love you most
At the class sometimes other kids are sitting on my lap and Olivia feeling little jealous.Few days ago before tucking her to sleep I said" O love all the other kids -spelled their names who were sitting on my lap too- but I love you most because you are my daughter.She looked at me and sat back in her bed and said "Mommy you know what.I love all the moms in the class-she was spelling their names too- but I love you most ,because you are my Mommy"
I LOVE YOU OLIVIA //I LOVE YOU MORE THAN ANYTHING AND ANYBODY ..
I LOVE YOU OLIVIA //I LOVE YOU MORE THAN ANYTHING AND ANYBODY ..
Weaning out Olivia-2
2nd day-- We red together in her bed( really hard to fit though--I am really big:-)).After reading I was ready to responde demand for MEME but
She said "No meme ?"
I said"no -you'll have it tomorrow morning"
She said"Since I am not having meme now,can I have cow's milk instead?" ( so cude:-))
I said" sure, but youare going to rinse your mouth -Ok?
She said" No problemKanga ,I will do that" ( Sometimes she calls meKanga ,and herself Roo :-))
3rd day---Since we were on a short vacation
she skipped naptime nursing and slept in her car seat instead.
We stayed in a out of the house abd slept together.
She didn't have dog and bay with us .
Asked for nursing worriedly and I couldn't say NO.She nursed very short compared to other times and said"I am done Mommy":-))
She was asking about dog more .I should have taken doggy with us !!!
4th day-- tonight
We came back home.Olivia and I took a bath together( It is alot of fun btw:-)).I am holding her and she is hugging me tight under running water.SHe is scrubbing my back,I am scrubbing her's:-))
She wanted to play "Pretending going to swimming pool" instead of reading.After the play
I said:" I am going to sing you "you are my sunshine"
She said " After you sing I'll have meme and sleep OKay?"
I said" You'll have meme tomorrow morming .when there is sunlight"
She started crying saids" No- no not tomorrow morninh .Now now right away"
I said" I understand that Olivia ,but you will have it only when there is sun .Evening is sleeping time ."
She said"Then can I have cow's milk from the fridge ?
I said" Sure"
She did -we rinsed her teeth. I sang her song and kissed her, cuddled her - pat her hair .
We said "Goodninght my fairy princes,sleep tight .Tomorrow we are going to practice together"
She whispered"That's a wonderful idea Mommy" ( this part is from her fairy princes tatiana book)
She slept.
By the way ,few days ago after I took her midning potty I tocked her back and kissed.She opened her eyes and said" Mommy could you say "tomorrow we are going to practice together "
:-))) I did...
.I mentioned that
She said "No meme ?"
I said"no -you'll have it tomorrow morning"
She said"Since I am not having meme now,can I have cow's milk instead?" ( so cude:-))
I said" sure, but youare going to rinse your mouth -Ok?
She said" No problemKanga ,I will do that" ( Sometimes she calls meKanga ,and herself Roo :-))
3rd day---Since we were on a short vacation
she skipped naptime nursing and slept in her car seat instead.
We stayed in a out of the house abd slept together.
She didn't have dog and bay with us .
Asked for nursing worriedly and I couldn't say NO.She nursed very short compared to other times and said"I am done Mommy":-))
She was asking about dog more .I should have taken doggy with us !!!
4th day-- tonight
We came back home.Olivia and I took a bath together( It is alot of fun btw:-)).I am holding her and she is hugging me tight under running water.SHe is scrubbing my back,I am scrubbing her's:-))
She wanted to play "Pretending going to swimming pool" instead of reading.After the play
I said:" I am going to sing you "you are my sunshine"
She said " After you sing I'll have meme and sleep OKay?"
I said" You'll have meme tomorrow morming .when there is sunlight"
She started crying saids" No- no not tomorrow morninh .Now now right away"
I said" I understand that Olivia ,but you will have it only when there is sun .Evening is sleeping time ."
She said"Then can I have cow's milk from the fridge ?
I said" Sure"
She did -we rinsed her teeth. I sang her song and kissed her, cuddled her - pat her hair .
We said "Goodninght my fairy princes,sleep tight .Tomorrow we are going to practice together"
She whispered"That's a wonderful idea Mommy" ( this part is from her fairy princes tatiana book)
She slept.
By the way ,few days ago after I took her midning potty I tocked her back and kissed.She opened her eyes and said" Mommy could you say "tomorrow we are going to practice together "
:-))) I did...
.I mentioned that
Thursday, May 21, 2009
Weaning out Olivia
I have sore nipples feels like the same when I first started BF.Anyway I asked Olivia to skip nursing today kindly.Explained her that it hurts.She looked at me and my nipple and said .
"No I will cry " I asked "why will you cry" She said "I will cry for nursing.After you give me goodnight kiss ,I will get up and ask for meme again":-))
I told her"You can skip it tonight and nurse tomorrow morning again" She didn't say anything .I just went ahaid to dress pyjamas.She said" I want you to skip Kanga washing Piglet pretend play and play swimming pool instead" ( She was trying to use word skip proudly).I excepted it and we played as much as she wanted and then red Peter Rabbit ( she loves it on these days).
Then I turned the lights out and with the night light started singing "You are my sunsine "for her.I was kissing and petting her hair.She was about to cry and said"I want meme and sleep,I will cry for that" I just kept singing and kissing her.When I said" You never know that ,how much I love you (part of the song) " Olivia asked me"what did you say" .I repeated"You never know that how much I love you" She looked at me seriously and said:
"Please don't sing it as you never know how much I DON"T love you " :-))))
I said"No I won't" Because I love you and I always will.She gave me a nice smile.
She went to sleep after singing by herself in her bed.Didn't get up or cried at all.
I am planning to stop nightime nursings like that.Then morning and naptimes.But not decided which one first yet.Lets see.
Morning time would be hard for me ,because I love when she comes to our bed and cuddle with me while nursing. I feels worth leaving my job just for that time.
If I stop naptime nursing ,she may ask for and also may stop napping.Right now she is napping 3-4 hours which gives me great freedom:-))
Let's see.
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By the way yesterday whilwe watching her W de Pooh dvd ,I noticed that she was about to cry,her eyes full of tears.
I went next to her and asked
ME: "Olivia what is the matter"
Oli: "I am sad and will cry"
ME:"Why are you going to cry ,do you know?
Oli:"Because Piglet is alone"
(Piglet was lost,walking alone in the woods and his friends were missing him)
I love the way she express her feelings...
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"No I will cry " I asked "why will you cry" She said "I will cry for nursing.After you give me goodnight kiss ,I will get up and ask for meme again":-))
I told her"You can skip it tonight and nurse tomorrow morning again" She didn't say anything .I just went ahaid to dress pyjamas.She said" I want you to skip Kanga washing Piglet pretend play and play swimming pool instead" ( She was trying to use word skip proudly).I excepted it and we played as much as she wanted and then red Peter Rabbit ( she loves it on these days).
Then I turned the lights out and with the night light started singing "You are my sunsine "for her.I was kissing and petting her hair.She was about to cry and said"I want meme and sleep,I will cry for that" I just kept singing and kissing her.When I said" You never know that ,how much I love you (part of the song) " Olivia asked me"what did you say" .I repeated"You never know that how much I love you" She looked at me seriously and said:
"Please don't sing it as you never know how much I DON"T love you " :-))))
I said"No I won't" Because I love you and I always will.She gave me a nice smile.
She went to sleep after singing by herself in her bed.Didn't get up or cried at all.
I am planning to stop nightime nursings like that.Then morning and naptimes.But not decided which one first yet.Lets see.
Morning time would be hard for me ,because I love when she comes to our bed and cuddle with me while nursing. I feels worth leaving my job just for that time.
If I stop naptime nursing ,she may ask for and also may stop napping.Right now she is napping 3-4 hours which gives me great freedom:-))
Let's see.
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By the way yesterday whilwe watching her W de Pooh dvd ,I noticed that she was about to cry,her eyes full of tears.
I went next to her and asked
ME: "Olivia what is the matter"
Oli: "I am sad and will cry"
ME:"Why are you going to cry ,do you know?
Oli:"Because Piglet is alone"
(Piglet was lost,walking alone in the woods and his friends were missing him)
I love the way she express her feelings...
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Tuesday, May 19, 2009
For example ...
Yesterday morning at the breakfast table
OLI:Daddy How was your day?
Reha:I like my job Oli. I like my collegues..
OLI :What did you do?
Reha:I am working there .Working with (In the middle of the sentence)
OLI: Dady WHAT DID YOU DO? (:-)))))
Reha said :She means just responde my question ,don't tell me story.Be specific plaese.By the way it is Reha's way .He is the one always expecting to get short and specific answers to his specific questions:-))
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Yesterday evening:
Olivia was playing with the long stick that Reha brought home .Then she hit him
Oli:"Sorry daddy .I didn't mean to hurt anybodyyyy !!!
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This morning I was trying to find her cardigan before leaving for the class.Olivia comes in and pointing her hand :
"Mommy ,for example if you are holding a glass like that ,you may not carry your book at the same time :-))"
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Today in the class when teacher called everybody in for snack time.All kids were in the middle of playing outside.Olivia went in directlly to Jessica and
"Jessica Peterson,I am sorry that you called us inside for the snack time" :-))
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Today in the playground when kids are fighting for the play house Olivia came me and said:
"Mommy ,one wants(one of the boys crying ) the door open and the other(the other boy) wants it shut.Look at me and I am all upset now.I can't play" :-))
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I am taking her to the swimming pool for last couple of days.She is wery comfortable in the water.Yesterday she was trying to lay down.
Monday, May 18, 2009
Ohhh !!!!!!
We are not letting Olivia to watch TV since she was born.We have no TV now and up to a year ago we had dish network but turned it on only when she was asleep. She was allowed to watch some videos from y tube only 3 in the morning after the breakfast. For last 2-3 months we have been borrowing some DVds from the library and she is watching only one at a time /day during her "watching time" which is after the breakfast normal days and after the lunch on class days.
She loves to watch and generally crying after one and asking for the other one. I am asking her to make a decision and pick one and watch it .Sometimes ,towards the end of watching she is crying saying "I was going to watch the other one -sorry" .I let her to watch "the other one" then realized that it was her trick to be able to watch another video.Since then I am not letting this "sorry I Changed my mind" thing:-)) and she worked well.She is taking couple of minutes by looking at the DVDs and making a decision.Yesterday she came back with WDPooh DVD and said"I said to my self think-think-think and today I prefer this one said to myself." I said "very good -you made a decision" She went "I said to myself I prefer this one "again. I said"Good you were talking to yourself " .And she goes"I was talking to my brain:-)))
Today while I was driving from school back we were going to pick Reha and came back home so that he can get the car.On the way back home Olivia was talking about which DVD she is planning to watch today .I mentioned her that she can whichever she wants to.
At home she set the DVD up right away and was waiting for her lunch to be served.Reha had a bite too and was about to leave.I hugged and kissed Reha and Olivia wanted to do the same and started running toward him and tipped and fell and bumped her head on the door frame.It was a hard one and she started crying( by the way she is rarely crying for bumping )and looked like she really had sore head
Reha hold her and said it is okay etc.She wanted to "go down "and stand up .Reha put her down and she turned him and said:I AM SORRY DADDY,I WAS GOING TO DO THIS(she was showing by petting Reha's shoulder (Sometimes we pet each others shoulder to say good bay or good luck you name it:-)). She was still crying some by wiping her tears.Reha said "I know Olivia ,I know"
Then Olivia turned to me and said ( I was about to cry when I heard it and still when I remember it) "MOMMY,CAN I WATCHED MY WDPOOH DVD NOW ,IT MAY HELP ME TO FEEL BETTER " She means before the lunch. What could I say ?? No???
I said "Yes sure " and she did while having her lunch at the same time :-))
I was so touched by her words because I am always asking her if she feels better after having a hard tome for any reason. I am doing this becouse I am trying to encourage her to talk about her feelings and realize how her feelings could change from (-) to (+) by just doing something else and after a while.
With her words Reha and looked at each other and he left .I started to think, how nice it is that, Olivia can realize that she is sad for some reason and, what could make her feel better (what shee needs to feel better at 2:5 years old. )
When I visited Kevin (who has been my therapist for almost 3 years) first time ,and when had asked me,if I know what are my needs or not. I was speechless and I was 41 years old. I had came back home and worked on it 1 week and couldn't figure out what could they be "My needs".
My little baby was telling me what she needs to be able to feel better now.
May be watching was not the ideal thing to recover your pain but anyway I am sure she will get there too.:-))
She has lots of time and I would love to guide her on her voyage :-)))))))))
Sunday, May 17, 2009
Mount Laguna
Olivia went her first camping this weekend.We have been talking about it for a while and she sow our sleeping bags (luckily we had 3 of them -)) ,tent and she was very excited .So I decided to arrange something ASAP and we have been on Mount*lagu*na this weekend just came back home.
Our way up there took almost 2 hours since it is 6000 feet high.She kept reading her favorite Curduro*y book that we bought from the library and fell asleep last 15 minutes of our travel.
She loved helping to set up the tent and hammering of course.When I asked her to pass me the hammer she goes"I can't .I am very using it now .I will give it to you as soon as I am done" .Then 1 min later she brings it saying"It is your turn now,you can take it" :-))
Then we had some food and went for a walk .She walked on the long logs and she wanted us to race by counting"One-two-three"
She was all dirty ,her face,nails,toes were all black.We hardly stopped her going in the tent without shoes .
At night Reha and Olivia counted the stars by laying down the picnic cover.Then Reha decided to start a camp fire.Since we hadn't bought any logs ,we first started with pine cones that we all picked up from the campsite.Then our camp neighbour gave us 2 logs.Then we ended up placing medium size log that was available there.Olivia loved it of course but it was so nice for both of us too. Around 9pm Olivia asked me to go to tent to sleep. I changed her clothes with clean and warmer ones and gave her favorite dog and bay(blanket) that I had decided to bring despite of my effort to keep them clean at home.She was so surprised and happy to see both of them there.She was nursed next to camp fire and light,under the starry sky by cuddling her dog and blanket.For a while she was pointing sky and hamming like"himm-himm-himm" that then she said "she is counting stars at the same time(while nursing):-))"
Then she fell asleep .We sat with Reha another hour or so.She woke up while we are trying to settle down in the tent and started playing with sleeping bags ,pillows etc.The last thing that remember was Reha was drifted away-I was trying to do he same and Olivia was singing and talking with Chr*stoph8r Robin :-))
Unfortunately our camera hasn't arrived yet and I am really sorry not being able to catch the moment we all of us around the camp fire !!!
Wednesday, May 6, 2009
What is the matter dentist
I was out visiting Deniz over the weekend.I told Olivia that "Deniz needs me ,I will go and visit her by myself" She said "Ok .Deniz needs you"
Couple of times she said "Deniz needs me too,I need to help her":-))
Reha and Oli dropped me train station.She let me kiss her and waved goodbye (without crying )
When I called he on Saturday she said"I love you mommy" 2-3 times then "Do you have anything to say daddy" and passed the phone . Other times she didn't want to talk to me at all.
On Sunday evening at 6:18 pm they picked me from the same station.When I got out sow both of them searching for me among the other passengers.Her face and eyes looked really excited by checking passengers one by one.When she sow me run toward me and jumped on my arms.I would stay forever like that!!!!!!!!!!!
Reha said on Saturday evening Olivia got her bay and doggy and went to bed by herself and slept.
I was pretty surprised and proud about her.Considering every night I am nursing her to sleep???? I guess she is ready to stop it.
On Monday morning she came to bed and stayed in the bed cuddling with Reha and sucked her thump :-(((
Sounds like she found a solution by herself instead of fussing to daddy--my smart bug:-))
After the big reunion at the station we went to beach and playground together.
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We are not going to class this week. I would but Daddy doesn't feel comfortable with the famous flu. I respect his worry so we are having fun home.
Today I took Olivia to another dentist ,she sat and let them clean her teeth.( I am soo proud) I think our every night -biscuits goes to dentist-Dr Seuss goes to dentist -curious George goes to dentist pretend plays helped a lot.Before we got there Olivia had said "I will sit there by myself and open big "
Olivia calls the other dentist ---What is the matter dentist:-)))
Couple of times she said "Deniz needs me too,I need to help her":-))
Reha and Oli dropped me train station.She let me kiss her and waved goodbye (without crying )
When I called he on Saturday she said"I love you mommy" 2-3 times then "Do you have anything to say daddy" and passed the phone . Other times she didn't want to talk to me at all.
On Sunday evening at 6:18 pm they picked me from the same station.When I got out sow both of them searching for me among the other passengers.Her face and eyes looked really excited by checking passengers one by one.When she sow me run toward me and jumped on my arms.I would stay forever like that!!!!!!!!!!!
Reha said on Saturday evening Olivia got her bay and doggy and went to bed by herself and slept.
I was pretty surprised and proud about her.Considering every night I am nursing her to sleep???? I guess she is ready to stop it.
On Monday morning she came to bed and stayed in the bed cuddling with Reha and sucked her thump :-(((
Sounds like she found a solution by herself instead of fussing to daddy--my smart bug:-))
After the big reunion at the station we went to beach and playground together.
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We are not going to class this week. I would but Daddy doesn't feel comfortable with the famous flu. I respect his worry so we are having fun home.
Today I took Olivia to another dentist ,she sat and let them clean her teeth.( I am soo proud) I think our every night -biscuits goes to dentist-Dr Seuss goes to dentist -curious George goes to dentist pretend plays helped a lot.Before we got there Olivia had said "I will sit there by myself and open big "
Olivia calls the other dentist ---What is the matter dentist:-)))
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