Oli - Moli

It is going to be a long post but most probably the last one about Olivias potty training.
5 days in a row we went through this:
8-9 pm
Brushing teeth ,,reading on her new bed by me( really hard to fit in for me:-))
Nursing in mommy's and daddy's bed (she is not excepting nursing in her bed )
Rinsing her mouth before going back to her bed
Singing 3 times"you are my sunshine" and goodnight kiss.

Around 4 am

Either coming our room by crying or me going her room in each case she is all wet.
Once I found her all soaked and sleeping on the carpet on her room because the bed was all wet.I guess she went down to look for a drier place to resume her sleep.
I changed her and brought her to out bed.

After 5 days we decided to put the alarm on and carry her to potty. Suddenly I made up a play and told her that "we are a team and we have a mystery" ( in her favorite animal baby dvd the team of animals are trying to solve the mystery of "why dolphins sprouting and swimming on the surface?" and she loves it). I said her that Olivia is doing great with her potty during the day.Now we as a team need to solve the mystery of keeping her dry at night.
HOW ARE WE GOING TO DO THAT ?
She smiled and cried "HOW?" pretending IZZY the owl from the dvd .
I said" at night either daddy or mommy will come and take Olivia to potty and Olivia will put her pee in there.So this way we'll keep her dry as a team.She liked the idea and said YES!!

We put alarm clock at 2:30 am.I woke and opened her sleeping suit.She asked half asleep:Where are you taking me mommy" I said "to potty" .Without talking I carried her (she was putting her head on my shoulder and sleeping) to the potty .Sit in front of her ,she was still sleeping on my shoulder.Then she said hold my hands and I did.She she went in the potty. And said"I peed:-))"

I hold her and carried back to her bed dressed up .She was awake and said "goodnight mommy ,go to your bed" ( I felt as if she said this thinking about my sleep-that i know not technically possible yet -anyway I was happy:-))


In the morning I woke up earlier and went to her bed when she called me.I sit down she was about to say something and stooped at the beginning of her sentence.Then She looked at me and said" Mommy ,I will tell you something but don't laugh??"
I said" Okay tell me"
She said: I want to have meme and sleep in Mommy and daddy's bed now"
I said:"SURE!!!" ( very seriously !!!! )

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Since that night I keep carrying her and she keeps sitting and going in her potty :-))

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Yesterday we donated her diapers to homeless babies. They came to pick them up from home and Olivia carried the box from her room and delivered by herself. She understood the meaning of donation .After that she asked couple of times:

OLI"Mommy ,what did we do my diapers"

Me: "We donated them to other babies honey"

OLI"Yes , we donated them.Can they walk?

Olivia came to out room at 4 am by crying "I don't want to sleep".I got up and hold her she was all soaked. I changed her from head to toe and she stopped crying and ans started making me jokes about Piglet .Then she said she wants to sleep with us.I brought her.She said"I want meme and Sleep"I explained her that it is not meme time yet ,she will be nursed in the morning .She cried saying " no ,no now ,right away:-))"
She asked me to take her to her bed that I did.She asked me to be nursed there that I said no.She asked me to go back to our bed again that I did.She asked to be nursed there again.She asked to Reha by crying"Daddy ,I want meme now right now not in the morning ,I want meme and sleep"
Reha explained her again.She kept crying until all of a sudden Reha called her Piglet( They have been playing pretend Piglet and WDP all weekend:-)).She stopped crying and started listening him carefully.Then she hugged him and then wanted to pother head on my pillow.Then hug Daddy again and fell asleep.
BTW after I changed her I put pull -up ,not really sure what to do tonight.

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Today in the class we had potty time .I took her to restroom along with her potty of course and she went right away.After that she washed her hands and dried etc.While she was washing her hands one of the mommies asked her if she used the potty ans said "good job'.Oli was very proud.
On the way back the way she was walking was even different:-))

After the class while walking back to home she has an accident on the street.She said" Change me,change me!"

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Now I remembered ,when Oli comes to sleep in our bed she is the one deciding who is going to sleep how.Such as:

Mommy,you sleep on your pillow not on Daddy's.
What are you doing ,are you holding hand,leave it mommy leave Daddy's hand.Don't hold it:-))
Daddy put your knees up I want to have a mountain to jump ( This could be done midnight)

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Today -Olivia used her potty 3 times for wee-wee and one time for her POOP :-))
Today- Olivia had only one accident on the carpet -No problem.
Today Olivia has been wearing big kid underwear all day long-even during the nap-NO MORE DIAPERS:-))))
Today -When Olivia was napping, we Mommy and Daddy converted her crib to a big kid bed and she is now sleeping in her big kid bed. When she sow it ,put her hands on her mouth and said "Oh no ,who brought this bed so far away :-)) "-NO MORE CRIB
Today -Olivia went to bed with her underwear on instead of diaper.She listened carefully what she is expected to do if she need to go and said "I will do that" !!!!!

Today she asked me and Daddy if we are happy individually.
After having went to the potty she said:
" I feel great"
"I am very happy"

Today Mommy has conflicting feelings.She is very proud and happy about her daughter's achievements .But she is also feeling sad .Not easy to explain. She felt the same each and every time :
When Olivia first came back from the hospital,
First moved from bassinet to her crib,
Moved to her room along with her crib,
First time her crib bumpers were removed,
Given away her high chair,her stroller,her baby clothes and toys.

Olivia is growing and I have mixed feelings . I LOVE HER AND EVERY MINUTE AND HOUR COUNTS.
I REALLY DON"T KNOW HOW I BECAME SO LUCKY BY HAVING HER.

Today- I cried band realized again that how happy I am by just being with her.

I LOVE YOU MY BABY-YOU WILL ALWAYS BE MY BABY and I WILL ALWAYS BE AROUND YOU AS LONG AS YOU WANT IT AND I LIVE.

PROMISE!!!

Sunday-- She refused to go to potty before we let for the playground.We took it with us as usual and I asked her to stay dry and asked me to use the potty as soon as she feels. We stayed 1 hour and a half came back home.And right after wahing hands she went to potty without too much effort.After the succesfull potty time she looked so joyful. She looked very confident too reading by herself ,singing all the songs that she knows all by herself and talking by herself .I was sitting here in front of this screen and wondered if she is aware of her feelings and what makes her feel this way.I turned my face her and asked.
Me:Olivia ,are you happy now?
Oli- Yes.
Me: Do you know why you feel so happy.
Oli: Becauseee I used my potty :-)))

I AM SO PROUD ABOUT HER BEING SO AWARE WHAT MAKES HER HAPPY.

I just love the way she expresses her feeling.I told her that I like the way she puts her feeling into words.

I am sad because this guy is cutting trees.Look at my sad face!!!

Last night number 1 went to potty.No #2 until this morning then it went to diaper while we I was still in the bed.She asked"Can I poo here in the diaper.I turned my head in the bed (She was on the floor standing and looked very busy with #2) and said"You better go to potty" Olivia said "turn your head SLEEEEEEEP ( While pooing :-))

Before noon went to potty for #1 (hurray!!) after holding half an hour .Lots of "Mommy hold me, Mommy come with me .Mommy read this and that while I am on the potty.Can I eat salami while I am waiting for pee-pee" Then she went on be eating her cucumbers on the potty.She first stopped eating looked surprised and listening what is going on then resumed her eating while still peeing. I think we are getting there soon:-))))))

Olivia went to potty #1 yesterday evening.In the morning before we leave the home for playground around 9:30 I asked her to go to potty and she refused.Then I put her jean and while we were washing her hands she said she had an accident (went on her jean in the bathroom).We changed her and I told her that her if she needs to go again she has to tell me so that she can sit on the potty there at the restroom of the playground.(I took potty with us and showed it to her too).
When we were there she excepted to go to the restroom and sit on it once but nothing came.We were back home and she refused to sit on it and said she wants to nap "right away"After short lunch I put some more layers on our bed and she napped there .First she asked for the extra sheets and wanted me to take them of buy I convinced her to sleep on them.When she woke up she was dry.Since it was already 5:30 pm and we had to leave the house to pick Reha up we didn't have much time to spend on the potty.I took potty again with us and told her what I expect her to do and how nice would be to keep the car seat DRY.She listened and agreed.After we came back to home she was really urged ( meanwhile she was refusing to drink water for some reason??) .Sitting on her potty for 2 seconds and standing wright up and running around to hold it more.She asked me to read that I did for 3 books than I said I have to cook and she has to sit and wait.She brought the potty into the kitchen and sat 1 second again and stood.She couldn't neither stay still nor sit and go for it and kept saying"Mommy hold me" by stretching her arms.
I took potty to the bathroom again and said her she HAS TO PUT HER PEE IN THE POTTY,WRIGHT HERE that I marked with X sign with a marker before :-))).
I tried to pretend not paying attention to her case very bust with the kitchen. After couple of times running in and out she cried :

"I PEED IN THE POTTY MOMMY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! "

I went there it was a lot of pee-pee in the potty.We poured it in the toilet together ,she flushed .
I made 3 times Alde-Alde -Alde(I am throwing her up high and catching when she does something good).She asked for a candle for celebration .While we were looking for lighter Reha came back from the market and he joined us for celebration.We lit the candle sang'You are a super dooper pooper "song .Then Olivia asked to sing Happy birthday Olivia .Then she asked for signing Happy birthday Mommy .We did them all .

She was so happy and proud about herself that she kept signing and dancing all night.
After couple of hours she had to go for #2 .We took her underwear out.She was asking for one that we didn't give.She was telling Reha" Daddy ,I am looking for a place to put my poop in:-))
Reha said Potty is a good idea.She again kept running ,sitting ,standing and managed to hold it almost 1 hour.It was bedtime I put her diaper on and when I asked where the poo-poo went she said "I keep in in my bottom:-)) .1 hour after going to bed she was crying with the poop on her diaper was asking "Mommy to change it not daddy" .I was reading in the bed when Reha took her out of her crib and opened bedroom door .She came in by crying and looked at me said"I thought you were sleeping too ,but you are reading ??" .I explained her that sometimes I read books in the bed before I go to sleep.

Today we went to Barne5*Nobles for story time .I took the potty with us again.And told her that she needs to go to potty after story time.She first said " No I don't want potty with us" .I asked her where is she going to put her pee-pee.Is she okay to sit on the big potty".Her answer was " I WANT THIS POTTY TO BE LOST :-))" Then she agreed .We went in disabled boot and she sit on her potty on and of again.I told her she can sit on big one and I can hold her hands.She wanted me hold her hands while sitting on her potty on the floor that I did.AND SHE WENT. She wanted to stand up immediately that I insisted to sit some more and try more.She sat and went some more.It was a lot of pee-pee again. We poured together,flushed wiped-washed hands etc.Not to forget 3 times Alde-Alde-Alde in B&N restroom with hurrays :-))

We got back to read books,I was so proud about her talking with an Indian Lady that she did pee in the potty first time outside of the home and the lady was telling me her potty training story with her 18 months old boy( that he has been trained since 6 months old !!!!) . Instantly I heard Olivia saying ahhhhhh and I looked at her she was standing still holding one book on her hands and said :I am peeing -I made and accident AGAIN:-(( . Her jean was all wet.

While I was carrying her to restroom on my arms the story teller that Olivia really likes sow us and said"Oh NOOOO" .Olivia heard it and asked me couple of times "She said ohh no because ??". She looked very concerned what story teller said :-))

Now She is napping without diaper we'll see how today and the rest of the week will go. I just want to complete this process during the spring break so that next week on Monday we can start using potty regularly.I would like to move nighttime ASAP too.

To be honest this process has been one of the most challenging issue in my whole life :-)))) That's why I stopped 3 times and tried it again after a while. I hope this summer at the beach she will be diaper free :-)))))))

This week,on Monday 6th,Olivia asked her first official WHY question me. At the playground she has been playing in the sand pool,digging sands with her fingers and holding them for a while on her fingers and opening fingers slowly letting them running through her fingers and watchin them carefully .After a long time repeating this process and watching it ovr and over she said "Mommy?"said instantly.
"Mommy.WHY we have 5 fingers???"

I froze. Is there anything stange with it .May be no.Every children throughout their chlidhoog are asking such questions -wright?
But I froze for a few minutes.Because I have always been thinking how to answers Olivia's Why questions(when the time comes) because I really found them challenging.
After I melt back quickly tought and said
" Because (long one to have somemore time:-)) ,having 5 fingers helps us to grap objects much better.Look some of them long and some of them shorter .They al designed for that purpose'

In order to make sure if I passed the exam I asked softly:
"Does it make sense Olivia?
She said " Sure "softly too, without looking at me and being very busy with the sand .

I was very proud of myself .She repeated my answer to couple of times later saying
"We have 5 fingers because it helps us to grap objects nicely":-))



I couldn't help thinking how my little baby snuggling on my arms looking for nothing else but mommy's milk became this big and questioning the existence. She is 29 months old now and for the last few months she is becoming a child than a toddler.
I feel great when she says: "Mommy,I want to be like you ".

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Dilek send a package on her name.She was very surprized when she eard the postman is asking for Olivia Seremet.On the phone she said :"Thank you Dilek for your gift"

Every afternoon she is walking to mailbox and checking if we have letter from Dilek.She is pretending that we have letters from Dilek. She wants me to ask her if we have any .And she responds that I have 2( Sometimes 3-4-5:-)) letters from her and delivering them to me.I am reading pretend letters like:Dear Olivia .....-)) She loves to listen.

Oli-Mommy,can I watch my Russian ?( Another Winnie de Pooh video in Russian in y tube)
Me:Yes sure
Oli-While watching my russion I am bringing my Ch Robin book to show him.(pointing CR in the Screen to CR in the book saying"look CR ,you are in the computer:-))
Oli- Mommy ,I am bringing the biggest book EVER:-)) (by dragging the book on the carpet ,it is really big one for her size )
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Oli-Mommy, I stopped your milk .I am drinking cows milk now.( her biggest lie ever)

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Oli- Mommy ,Is it my nutshell,is this one my rose blanket ?(Every night before going to sleep in her crib - from fairy princes book:-))


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Oli- Mommy don't say babies because there is only one baby:-))

Mommy ,when I am making my secret dance don't look at me.Be patient ! And then we'll go in thebedroom and sing "you are my sunshine" together. I am pooingggggggggggggg ( voice going down :-))))