Oli - Moli

We are not letting Olivia to watch TV since she was born.We have no TV now and up to a year ago we had dish network but turned it on only when she was asleep. She was allowed to watch some videos from y tube only 3 in the morning after the breakfast. For last 2-3 months we have been borrowing some DVds from the library and she is watching only one at a time /day during her "watching time" which is after the breakfast normal days and after the lunch on class days.

She loves to watch and generally crying after one and asking for the other one. I am asking her to make a decision and pick one and watch it .Sometimes ,towards the end of watching she is crying saying "I was going to watch the other one -sorry" .I let her to watch "the other one" then realized that it was her trick to be able to watch another video.Since then I am not letting this "sorry I Changed my mind" thing:-)) and she worked well.She is taking couple of minutes by looking at the DVDs and making a decision.Yesterday she came back with WDPooh DVD and said"I said to my self  think-think-think and today I prefer this one said to myself." I said "very good -you made a decision" She went "I said to myself I prefer this one "again. I said"Good you were talking to yourself " .And she goes"I was talking to my brain:-)))

Today while I was driving from school back we were going to pick Reha and came back home so that he can get the car.On the way back home Olivia was talking about which DVD she is planning to watch today .I mentioned her that she can whichever she wants to. 

At home she set the DVD up right away and was waiting for her lunch to be served.Reha had a bite too and was about to leave.I hugged and kissed Reha and Olivia wanted to do the same and started running toward him  and tipped and fell and bumped her head on the door frame.It was a hard one and she started crying( by the way she is rarely crying for bumping )and looked like she really had sore head

 Reha hold her and said it is okay etc.She wanted to "go down "and stand up .Reha put her down and she turned him and said:I AM SORRY DADDY,I WAS GOING TO DO THIS(she was showing by petting Reha's shoulder  (Sometimes we pet each others shoulder to say good bay or good luck you name it:-)). She was still crying some by wiping her tears.Reha said "I know Olivia ,I know"

Then Olivia turned to me and said ( I was about to cry when I heard it and still when I remember it) "MOMMY,CAN I WATCHED MY WDPOOH DVD NOW ,IT MAY HELP ME TO FEEL BETTER " She means before the lunch. What could I say ?? No??? 

I said "Yes sure " and she did while having her lunch at the same time :-))

I was so touched by her words because I am always asking her if she feels better after having a hard tome for any reason. I am doing this becouse I am trying to encourage her to talk about her feelings and realize how her feelings could change from (-) to (+)  by just doing something else and after a while.

With her words Reha and looked at each other and he left .I  started to think, how nice it is that, Olivia can realize that she is sad for some reason and, what could make her feel better (what shee needs to feel better  at 2:5 years old. )

When I visited Kevin (who has been my therapist for almost 3 years)  first time ,and when had asked me,if I know what are my needs or not. I was speechless and I was 41 years old. I had came back home and worked on it 1 week and couldn't figure out what could they be "My needs".

My little baby was telling me what she needs to be able to feel better now. 

May be watching was not the ideal thing to recover your pain but anyway I am sure she will get there too.:-)) 

She has lots of time and I would love to guide her on her voyage :-)))))))))